Yes my son and his girlfriend are the same. Both highly intelligent and well educated. She has travelled abroad and I think that has given her a different kind of education/viewpoint.That's how it was for my oldest son. He graduated from high school going on 2 years ago, and he didn't go to college/university because he didn't have a passion for any type of career. He took all the honors classes and is a very sharp guy. But about halfway through high school, he got so burnt out, and also pretty bitter about the flaws he saw in the education system, that he didn't want to continue in the education system even longer. He wanted to do some kind of blue collar work and work with his hands.
Well, he lives about 2 hours away now, and he's been working a job that is decent enough for him to scrape by on his own, and he's learned a lot about how life works. Growing up, we weren't rich, but he never wanted for anything. He always wanted the experience of being poor and finding happiness in other ways. Now that he has experienced scraping by, he realizes the stress of it, and knows he needs to do something to further his career. But that's coming when he's going on 20, instead of fresh out of high school. His girlfriend that he'll end up marrying someday is in her first year toward a goal of being a doctor. So she has a lot of school ahead of her, and will probably have a lot of student loans when it's over.
But they are both doing relatively menial jobs that they enjoy, but also saving to buy a house.
It's just everyone develops at different rates, I'm sure they'll both figure out what they want to do when it suits them.