In all the RPGs I've played, romance never feels authentic or, for lack of a better word, 'real'.
Well that's because it isn't real, it's a game, that can be taken two ways
But running around slaughtering people (NPC's) isn't "real" either, so I find it a nice break, some games I romance the same NPC, some games I switch up, just depends if I am using a male or female PC.
My Wife asked me once why I would play a Female PC and I replied it was much nicer than staring at Male Dragonborn's Butt all day!
I have to say to each their own, it is not my way or the highway.
Nice reading a different opinion even though I don't know some of the games listed.