I played some more Elden Ring. I found the Demi-human ashes that
@Zloth pointed me towards (thanks!), a jellyfish one and one with skeletons. I upped my dex to 16 so I could use the new spear I found and discovered that it isn't actually used as a spear. For some reason my guy is swinging it around in giant arches instead of just stabbing things with it, so I went back to the halberd I started with and upgraded it to +3.
I also lost my souls for the first time since I started playing and it was a couple of thousand as well, which sucked. It wasn't even against a boss, just some random group of humans.
My wife and I started a new game of Baldur's Gate 3. Her as a druid and me as a ranger and so far it's going quite well. We even almost killed the demon guy at the beginning, he only had 14 health left when everyone started dropping and my wife got us out of there.